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bb - 2006-11-11 09:06:27
Why don't you just send her to daddy's house?
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Bozoette Mary - 2006-11-11 09:23:13
Oh sweety, oh sweety.
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pam l - 2006-11-11 10:59:25
I know you don't need anyone else telling you what to do right now, since that's your ex's job, but: maybe Leigh really does need to move out and find out how the real world is. For an 18 year old to act the way she does with you is terrible. Frankly it sounds more like a 15-16 year old spouting irrational complaints like that. We had a similar porblem with my older son. When he was 18 he only had to mow the lawn once a week and help out with the dishes if he was here for dinner. He had a job and wasn't home that much but he still had to contribute. We would remind him about mowing the lawn which he chose to ignore. At one point those famous words were spoken, "Either do what you've been asked to do to help out here, or find someplace else to live" He took us up on it. I hated that it had come to that but he was insufferable, running off to help his girlfriends family, but never doing anything here. I can't believe how mature and caring he is now. He totaaly appreciates everything so much more. He pinches his pennies and has been self sufficient for over a year now. We had the same arrangement for college. We would pay for passing grades, not for failing ones. He had a Stafford loan we would pay if he followed these rules. The failures would be left at the end of college for him to pay. Unfortunately he decided he wasn't ready for college and dropped out after one semester, but there was no way we were going to pay full tuition for someone who failed and lost his Stafford loan in the process for the same reason, not going to class. You cetainly do not need this added stress right now. Leigh needs to grow up and you need to ignore her right now.
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Denver doug - 2006-11-11 12:16:38
Been in a similar situation -- great sympathy -- praying for you all.
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LA - 2006-11-11 14:39:28
Isn't this the kid who ruined her prom because of a same dress incident? Sounds like Miss Thang needs a serious reality check. Hold firm, sweetie. I know you don't have the energy for this crap, but do if you can. Don't even argue points with her. There's no proving anything to her right now. I totally agree that if she would be physically safe there she should move in with Dad. When her messes don't magically disappear and neither does her laundry and when food doesn't appear and shampoo and tampons and...you see where this goes? Good luck, my friend. You've been a good and loving mother, now it's time to make that worm grubbing chick of yours scratch for herself a little. ~LA
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Bex - 2006-11-11 15:29:21
It just keeps coming and coming, doesn't it Steph. I can't believe Leigh is doing this to you. When I turned 18 and graduated high school, my parents said I had 2 weeks to get a job and start paying rent. There was no college option. They were pretty poor, both working full time, and I had to do the same. So I did get a job, and 2 weeks after graduation, I was paying rent to my Mom, until I found an apartment, a new job, and moved into Boston. That's how I grew up, and I lived thru it. It was hard, but it was necessary. I agree with LA, don't even try to argue your case... you set the rules and she either lives BY them or lives somewhere else. She's an adult now. At least in age, maybe not emotionally yet.
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Eva - 2006-11-11 19:52:32
Hello. Smile. For when your puter's fixed: http://www.desktopreflections.com/previews/rousseau.html As screensavers go, I think this one is very pretty. Eva
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Stefani - 2006-11-12 08:00:29
What's with kids these days? (How old do I sound??) Simon and his girlfriend eat out ALL the time, at his expense. I'm forever hearing "there's no food in this house". Sheesh. Hang tough, Stephanie, even if the ex won't. It's the right thing to do. And I agree with LA - don't even argue the points with her. She knows where you stand.
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Jim - 2006-11-12 20:01:07
Maybe she does need to spend a while doing a minimum wage job fulltime and seeing what the real world is like. That can be a very educational experience and a year or two of that might make getting a college education more meaninful and attractive. It's too bad that you have to deal with her selfish childishness when you are suffering so much as it is.
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Sunday - 2006-11-12 22:58:59
Pfft! I'm late on this, but whatever--your daughter? Put her out to stay with her father at this time (if possible, and hopefully it can be). You definitely do not need teenage "drama" right now.
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mz. em - 2006-11-13 00:52:46
Just remember that when one is pointing their finger at you, there are three pointing back at them and that tells you where their feelings are coming from. You hang tight and take care of yourself.
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