Comments:

Stefani - 2006-12-12 06:00:19
Denial can be a good thing, I think, as long as one doesn't live there permanently. This reminds me of the two years it took me to get the courage to leave my ex-husband. The first year, every time I thought of Simon, I'd cry at the thought of breaking up his family. I'd retreat into denial because I couldn't deal with it. Slowly, I was able to. /// Seeing a grief counselor sounds like a good idea for all concerned.
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gin - 2006-12-12 06:35:28
Steph, I am so very, very sorry.
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Bozoette Mary - 2006-12-12 06:41:05
It's okay to stay safe for a while. Hugging you.
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Texas Peach - 2006-12-12 10:42:09
I think a grief counselor would be good for you too Steph. This is not something you can get through on your own. Having hubby and daughters is nice..but you need someone who is able to help you go through what you need to go through and also to give you a safe place to let everything out. This affects everyone in your family so that safe place to fall isn't quite so safe when everyone else is grieving too. You are always in my prayers Steph....hugs to you.
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debbie - 2006-12-13 02:38:04
aww, one never gets over the loss of a loved one, hugs to you for carrying on as best as possible. youre doing a job that isnt easy with such dignity & aplomb, mark would be so proud of you for all of that, i know. i also know that being a member of the sandwich generation is no easy task so my hat goes off to you for even attempting to carry the weight. stay strong.
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zen - 2006-12-13 13:57:51
i think a grief counselor would be an excellent idea. like you said, a safe place to grieve with someone who is trained to help you muddle through these oh so painful times. i know it sounds so cliche to say that grieving is a process not an event...but they become cliche's for a reason. please take the time to give you what you need at this time m'dear...~zen
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Bex - 2006-12-13 14:13:28
You have my unending prayers that life gets easier for you Steph. Life is just so hard sometimes, and I know you are hurting bad now. I don't like to use the word "dead" to describe people anymore. I believe in "life after life" so if you find you just can't seem to get beyond the pain of Mark being gone, think of him as just in a different form now, not gone, just different. His spirit/soul does not die (I believe) so he's probably close to you all this time, wanting you to be comforted. Hugs.
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